Be honest - when you hear the phrase "Seniors Having Sex" your mind immediately jumps to hormone-driven teens. When you realize the conversation is about senior citizens, you gasp with disbelief. You think, they can't really be having sex, can they?

Here are the facts - HIV/AIDS is rapidly spreading among men and women over 50. A lack of awareness about the potential of AIDS in older generations and about effective prevention methods like condoms is leading to an explosion of cases. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recently came out with a report that supports routine HIV/AIDS testing for all Americans age 13 to 64, but some experts don't think this is enough. Although routine HIV/AIDS testing is a step in the right direction, it is naïve to only test people up to age 64. Whether we like to talk about it or not, sex is still happening among seniors, and where there's sex, there's STD's.
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Dr. Dorree Says

A tip about age. I don’t go by the numbers. I calculate my age by looking behind me at those who may be younger and saying “been there, done that,” and looking ahead and saying “I’m not there yet. Calculating my age by life stage make tons more sense than years. More...

Houston, We Have a Problem: We've Got a Mopey Dick

Most men lose interest in their usual sexual activity from time to time. We think of it as a Mopey Dick. Total short-term loss of interest is pretty standard, while long-term loss of interest usually indicates a problem, which may be medical or emotional.

Here's a quick self-check: If you can get a midnight or morning erection or you can masturbate when you are alone, then you're sometimes-hard, sometimes-soft penis is probably signaling an emotional issue, such as anxiety, depression, or relationship problems. Or you may be having an unconscious psychological reaction that makes your penis go limp, which a therapist may be able to help you sort out.

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Sex for Grownups: Dr. Dorree Reveals the Truth, Lies and Must-Tries for Great Sex After 50

Sex for Grownups delves deeply where other books only peek: between the sheets of adults having sex (or wanting to) in their 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond. You are not now, nor will you ever be, too old, too ill, too unattractive, or too alone for fulfilling sex. Learn how to open yourself to new ways of thinking, feeling, and enjoying great sex after 50. You're still rockin' - and we don't mean in a chair.

More than 80 million American women and men over fifty are facing a number of very common yet rarely talked about challenges in the bedroom—from low libido to unrealistic expectations, from waning hormones to physical limitations, from repressed desires and fantasies to performance anxiety. With humor and judgment-free advice, Dr. Dorree shows women and men how, with a little attitude shift and some adjustments to life's inevitable changes, the best really can be yet to come.

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I predicted life was not all love in the Edwards household years ago. At that time I suggested Elizabeth was far more than an innocent spouse suffering from a dread disease and that she was in fact active in causing her husband’s infidelities to become public. I'm relieved to find a bit of a reality check.

Latest in is that Elizabeth Edwards and her longtime husband, former senator and Presidential hopeful John Edwards, have separated, according to People magazine, via Reliable Source. The separation pre-dates John Edwards's admission that he fathered a child out of wedlock with former campaign videographer Rielle Hunter and that the separation could lead to divorce, depending on Elizabeth Edwards' health.

Is Elizabeth Edwards, who is battling incurable cancer, doing the right thing by separating from John? Should she file for divorce? What do you think? Should she stay or should she go?

Remember: sex by yourself or with a partner burns calories, keeps you limber, can lighten your mood, relaxes you, keeps your endorphins going, helps keep your brain and sex organs from atrophying, and studies show, adds to a healthier, longer life. It may be the best exercise around. It might also help to add one or more of the ones listed below from Harvard Medical School. 

Whether you’re 9 or 90, abundant evidence shows exercise can enhance your health and well-being. But for many people, sedentary pastimes, such as watching TV, surfing the Internet, or playing computer and video games, have replaced more active pursuits. Millions of Americans simply aren’t moving enough to meet the minimum threshold for good health — that is, burning at least 700 to 1,000 calories a week through physical pursuits. The benefits of exercise may sound too good to be true, but decades of solid science confirm that exercise improves health and can extend your life.

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Dear Dr. Dorree

I had just gotten out of the shower and was trying to get my contacts out. I wiped away the steam from the full-length mirror and what I saw shocked me. Exactly when did my rear end fall?                                       Juana, 49

Dear Juana,

Your bottom didn’t fall; it gradually relaxed. Gravity happens! You can lift your butt somewhat with exercises that target the area or go for a whole Brazilian cosmetic surgery to tighten and reshape but that’s not what’s really bugging you, is it? Each of us eventually has that defining moment when we realize we are no longer young. It was happening all along, of course, but suddenly we notice.

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We  are all touched by Haiti’s tragic circumstances. FiftyandFurthermore has given a donation, as have many of you. We can’t accept cash donations on this site now, but we welcome thoughts and wishes from your hearts.  Veering from our usual themes of relationships and sex (at any age, it’s a short step to love and babies), we are proud to present our writer and blog of choice below, by Mary Liepold.

The disastrous earthquake hit Haiti on January 12, and on January 13 my daughter gave birth to a baby boy. I alternated for most of a week between distracting our two-year-old granddaughter from her mama’s prolonged absence and helping to cuddle and soothe the newborn.

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