We wait breathlessly for the new female pill to pop that will help our sex drive return to the pyrotechnics of our youth.  Eventually there will be manufactured aids that help, but they won't be miracle drugs.  Some women suffer from low libido for multiple reasons including lack of desire, poor communication or long term resentment, poor relationships and not feeling desired.  While a pill will come along soon, and I hope it does, it will not be the miracle cure the world is waiting for.  Sexual enhancing medications such as hormones in many forms including testosterone, patches, injections, pills, and vaginal insertions, all have their place and can often help waning desire.  However, women are complex creatures and pills that increase sexuality will be welcome by many, but popping a pill will not necessarily peak a poor relationship.  For most women, especially as they age and high flying hormones wane, their desire for sensuality gains.  Pills work on physiology, not psychology.  In addition they are contraindicated when many other medications are used.  Certain antidepressants and nitrates for heart conditions when taken with male desire enhancing pills are a cocktail that kills.  Forty percent  of men stop using their so called magic bullet.  Why would women be any different?

The latest scientific hoopla is about flibanserin which seems to show some impact on improving sexual desire and lowering distress, but so far neither the FDA or other professionals have found the drug significantly effective.  I'm all for a pill that helps women feel and be more sexual. I believe a good lube is needed for most women as they age.  However, the miracle drug that will impact the complexities of desire as opposed to merely helping the body function in a more heightened state of arousal, is not yet with us.  My advice: exercise, stay healthy, love your lovely vibrator, shower head fingers and if you have a partner, use your sexuality, don't lose it.  Sexuality is your birthright and it keeps mind, body and spirit healthy.  Statistics tell us so.